Archive for Coast Guard Dads – Page 2

It has been a strange week for me. On New Year’s Day I picked up my Navy son at the airport. He was headed for SERE school (Search, Evade, Resist, Escape). It’s a required class that all pilots and air crew must attend. I drove him from Boston to Portsmouth, New Hampshire. I probably won’t see him for a year, since he is immediately relocating to San Diego after the class is over. He will be deploying in June, to somewhere in the Pacific, or heaven knows where. He’s excited…his training is finally ending, and he is a fully qualified Navy helicopter pilot. I’m happy for him, because he has the confidence that youth and good training bring. I’m also uneasy, because we are still very much a nation at war.

Today, I dropped off my Army son at the same airport. He is headed back to Afghanistan in the near future. His unit is deploying again, and as a Medic, he is an important part of the team. When he first deployed in 2009, I was able to tell myself that everything would be all right…that he would be fine. He also had the confidence that youth and good training bring. And he was fine…until he was badly wounded in combat.

This time, I say goodbye to my sons from a different viewpoint. I can’t put my finger on it…but this time I lack the ability to tell myself that it will be all right. I want it to be, with all my heart. I pray every day that it will be. But I can’t wall myself off from the knowledge that they will face danger, face the enemy, and endure hardship. I have, to be honest, lost the ability to tell myself that all will be well, that they will be safe, and return unharmed. I think I became a veteran in my own right. A veteran military parent.

There is no official category for such a thing. But it’s true nonetheless. I’m no longer the parent at the Basic Training graduation, smiling at a pass-in-review. I’m a good ways down the road from that now, and I know what war can do to young men and women. I’m the parent of two of America’s finest, young men who have put their personal safety and comfort aside to serve our nation. But I am also something else. My sons have changed, and I have changed too. I am still bursting with pride, but there is something else there. Perhaps it is a wish for a leap forward in time, to the end of 2012, when the deployments will end.

When I figure it out, I will write about it. Meanwhile, 2012 can’t pass quickly enough. Happy new year to everyone in FOTB, and God bless our troops.

A fitting tribute to Bob Hope for his enduring dedication to our troops!

It is truly amazing all of the men and women that served this country through the years and to see just how long Mr. Hope has been there for them. From before Pearl Harbor to Desert Storm. Even longer in our hearts and in our memories.

Narrated by Jerry Kristafer for Fathers of the Brave
“A Soldier’s Christmas Poem”
(written by Michael Marks in 2000)
“The embers glowed softly, and in their dim light,
I gazed round the room and I cherished the sight.
My wife was asleep, her head on my chest,
My daughter beside me, angelic in rest.
Outside the snow fell, a blanket of white,
Transforming the yard to a winter delight.
The sparkling lights in the tree I believe,
Completed the magic that was Christmas Eve.
My eyelids were heavy, my breathing was deep,
Secure and surrounded by love I would sleep.
In perfect contentment, or so it would seem,
So I slumbered, perhaps I started to dream.

The sound wasn’t loud, and it wasn’t too near,
But I opened my eyes when it tickled my ear.
Perhaps just a cough, I didn’t quite know, Then the
Sure sound of footsteps outside in the snow.
My soul gave a tremble, I struggled to hear,
And I crept to the door just to see who was near.
Standing out in the cold and the dark of the night,
A lone figure stood, his face weary and tight.

A soldier, I puzzled, some twenty years old,
Perhaps a Marine, huddled here in the cold.
Alone in the dark, he looked up and smiled,
Standing watch over me, and my wife and my child.
“What are you doing?” I asked without fear,
“Come in this moment, it’s freezing out here!
Put down your pack, brush the snow from your sleeve,
You should be at home on a cold Christmas Eve!”

For barely a moment I saw his eyes shift,
Away from the cold and the snow blown in drifts..
To the window that danced with a warm fire’s light
Then he sighed and he said “Its really all right,
I’m out here by choice. I’m here every night.”

“It’s my duty to stand at the front of the line,
That separates you from the darkest of times.
No one had to ask or beg or implore me,
I’m proud to stand here like my fathers before me.
My Gramps died at ‘ Pearl on a day in December,”
Then he sighed, “That’s a Christmas ‘Gram always remembers.”
My dad stood his watch in the jungles of ‘ Nam’,
And now it is my turn and so, here I am.
I’ve not seen my own son in more than a while,
But my wife sends me pictures, he’s sure got her smile.

Then he bent and he carefully pulled from his bag,
The red, white, and blue… An American flag.
I can live through the cold and the being alone,
Away from my family, my house and my home.
I can stand at my post through the rain and the sleet,
I can sleep in a foxhole with little to eat.
I can carry the weight of killing another,
Or lay down my life with my sister and brother..
Who stand at the front against any and all,
To ensure for all time that this flag will not fall.”

“So go back inside,” he said, “harbor no fright,
Your family is waiting and I’ll be all right.”
“But isn’t there something I can do, at the least,
“Give you money,” I asked, “or prepare you a feast?
It seems all too little for all that you’ve done,
For being away from your wife and your son.”
Then his eye welled a tear that held no regret,
“Just tell us you love us, and never forget.
To fight for our rights back at home while we’re gone,
To stand your own watch, no matter how long.
For when we come home, either standing or dead,
To know you remember we fought and we bled.
Is payment enough, and with that we will trust,
That we mattered to you as you mattered to us.”

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